Of Course You Want To Lose Weight and Feel Great - or do You?
By Garrett J. Braunreiter, GHF's
Success Coach
I've often talked about the "comfort zone" and
the feelings associated with the comfort zone: disappointment, guilt,
anger, and fear.
We talked recently about the great fears that hold us back
from achieving whatever it is we really want. One of the great fears
is the fear of success; specifically, as it applies to health and fitness.
Many of us have unsuccessfully tackled fitness programs
in the past. These unsuccessful attempts can bring on the fear of failure.
However, you may begin to realize that your weight problem goes deeper
than that. You may feel uneasy, even scared, when picturing yourself
"in-shape," energized, and living life to the fullest.
Could it be that many people fear the very goal that they
seek?
According to experts, that's exactly the case. Along with
success comes the possibility that people will view you differently
and treat you differently. Some people feel that getting and staying
healthy and fit is "just one more commitment" in an already
over-committed life. And there is the worry that as your body changes,
you change, too. Once you get a grip on your fitness-related fears,
you can gradually overcome them.
There are myths and misinformation put thoughts into people's
heads that they have to work out like crazy forever. Movie stars train
for hours a day to prepare for a role and to keep their bodies in Hollywood-shape,
and professional athletes dedicate 50+ hours a week to their sport.
(These are EXCEPTIONS, not the norm.)
Getting fit means you have to take on uncomfortable risks.
But ultimately, you get what you want.
You could think of exercise as a prescription. When you
get your medicine, you don't take the whole bottle at once, do you?
Of course not. The medicine won't work, and it is extremely harmful
to your body.
The prescription calls for specific doses at specific intervals
for maximum effectiveness. So for exercise, you're spreading out your
dosages over the course of a week. Key point: taking your exercise "medicine,"
just like any real medicine, MUST be taken CONSISTENTLY to be most effective.
The excuse of "I don't have time" to exercise
is easily dispelled. However, the fear that people will treat you differently
is not so easily gotten rid of. Even though the desire to look fantastic
and feel strong is at or near the top of want lists, many people worry
about the reactions to their improved appearance.
Suddenly, you're being flirted with and being showered
with compliments. When you're overweight, you have the protection of
the extra weight that takes you out of the competition. In other words,
excess weight can serve as a barrier of protection against what is desired
and, at the same time, feared. The internal arm-wrestling match.
If there is a history of abuse, an addiction or condition,
therapy works well to help a person be more assertive and come to terms
with the reason why s/he uses excess weight as a shield.
Strangers and acquaintances are not the only people who
treat the newly fit person differently. You may find your relatives
and friends treat you differently as well. You may even have experienced
the loss of a friend once you got in shape and s/he isn't, or at least
they were spending less and less time with you.
It's like they're saying, "I like the old, fat, lethargic
you better." What they're really saying is, "I don't like
that you're improving yourself and I'm not. I'm jealous because you've
done it, and I can't." They may view they way you keep yourself
well as self-centered and narcissistic.
Family members can also have trouble dealing with a dramatic
physical change. I can't tell you the number of times I've heard, "My
husband doesn't support me. My kids think I'm a fanatic." Family
members can have the same issues as friends, but being healthy and fit
can get right to the roots of what holds your family together. No kidding.
For some families, being together means stuffing your face.
Auntie doesn't understand why you want to go for a 30-minute walk after
dinner rather than have dessert. Cousins and uncles may be disappointed
that you don't want to stay for the football game.
It's YOUR job NOT to take this sort of "cold shoulder
treatment" personally. Talk to them. COMMUNICATE. Tell them what
you're trying to do. Tell them how much you need their support.
The fear is understandable. But the rewards - better looks,
better health, being more active, more confidence, more energy - outweigh
ANY fear. The changes in yourself are empowering and exciting. For the
most part, your family and friends are likely your biggest supporters.
So, no matter what your fears, remember your goals.
Keep your eye on the prize.
This article was provided by Garrett
J. Braunreiter, CSCS, GHF's
Success Coach. Please visit his site at http://www.worldpeakperformance.com
